Typical Emotions Following a Loss
Shock and Numbness
Initially, you may experience a sense of shock, feeling emotionally numb or carrying on with life as usual. Processing the reality of the loss takes time, and you may feel disoriented, as if your place in the world has shifted. Remember, these reactions are normal.
Pain
The passing of a loved one is profoundly distressing, often described as feeling torn apart or losing a part of oneself. Such emotions can be deeply unsettling and overwhelming.
Anger
Feeling anger is a natural response to death, as it can seem unjust and unfair, particularly if the person died prematurely or if you had plans for the future together. You might direct anger towards the deceased, others, or even yourself for perceived actions or inactions.
Guilt
Guilt commonly accompanies grief, whether you feel directly responsible for the death or burdened by a strained relationship with the deceased. It’s essential to be compassionate with yourself, recognizing that it’s unlikely you could have prevented the loss.
Depression
Following a loss, it’s common to experience depression, where life may seem devoid of meaning, and thoughts of continuing can be daunting. If you find yourself contemplating suicide, please reach out for help. You can contact the Samaritans at 116 123 or dial 999 in an emergency. Your GP can also provide information on mental health support services in your area.
Perceiving the Deceased
Occasionally, individuals believe they see or hear the departed. You might also find yourself fixating on the events leading up to their passing. These experiences stem from the brain’s attempt to comprehend the loss and accept its finality. Remember, this is part of the grieving process.
Physical Sensations
It’s not uncommon to experience physical discomfort after a loss, as the pain of grief can manifest physically, affecting various aspects of your well-being.
